Success is liking yourself, what you do & how you do it. – Maya Angelou
People have a need for affection and being liked. But it’s very easy to make a mistake here and go about it the wrong way. As an author or aspiring author, there will be times when you’re uncertain about whether or not you’ll be received. Received as an author, as a speaker or as anything other than the person other people think you are. But the truth is who you are is as important to you as it is to everyone else. Actually, how much you like yourself is a good gage for how much others will respond to you. Here are 3 quick tips to strengthen your view of you!
1. Like yourself. It gives you power and strength.
If you go for trying to get people to like you you’ll most likely come off as needy and desperate a lot of the time. This is a bad position to put yourself in. Because liking and respecting yourself goes hand in hand with people liking and respecting you.
2. People like people who like themselves.
What is attractive to a friend, an employer or a potential partner? To me, it seems like a lot of this boils down to people liking people who like themselves. Someone who likes him/herself is positive, confident, takes care of his/her health and opportunities in school/at work/in life.
3. More inner stability. Fewer rides on the emotional rollercoaster.
Getting compliments and being liked is wonderful. The problem is just that if you rely too much on validation from others then you let the outside world, other people, control how you feel. And that can be a real rollercoaster.
Because if you really need the positive validation from people then it’s hard to avoid listening to their negative input. Or you may feel bad when there is a temporary lack in the validation. So what do you do? You let go of focusing on needing that input and replace it with focusing on validating and liking yourself instead.
Liking you, makes them like you too.
To Your Success,
Author Feature: Apostle Frank Baio
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